Hidden Divorces Not Reflected in Divorce Rates
© 2007 Take the Lid Off Inc Published Sep 22/07 Oakville Beaver
Statistics Canada places Canada’s divorce rate at 38%, slightly better than the US rate of 44%. This number does not reveal what is defined as the ‘hidden divorce rate.’ Cohabitation, or ‘living together’ has become more common than marriage as a first union, and is also the preferred form of union after a first divorce has occurred. Also, many couples separate without divorcing, despite changes in Canada’s divorce laws that dramatically increased rates of divorce. Separations and dissolution of long-term cohabitation are not counted in the startling divorce rate – how bad is it?
A startling demographic occurs when one considers the effect of cohabitation on a subsequent marriage: cohabitation prior to marriage virtually doubles the likelihood of divorce. Surely a couple who lives together has either worked out their problems before the marriage, or decided not to tie the knot. That’s not what the numbers say.
Another startling demographic occurs after divorce: people who divorced are no happier five years later than they were when married. Obviously ending the marriage did not solve the problems causing unhappiness.
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